When irritability creeps in, it’s often a sign that we’re carrying more than we can comfortably hold. Feeling irritable doesn’t mean you’re failing as a parent. It’s a normal response when your needs go unmet or when boundaries are stretched thin. The key is to respond with self-compassion, not self-criticism.
Here are a few ways to turn irritability into an opportunity for growth:
When you respond to irritability with compassion, you’re not just caring for yourself. You’re also modeling emotional awareness and self-kindness for your kids. Your needs matter. Let today be a moment to honor them.
Self-compassion expert and author, Kristen Neff, explains the benefits of anger and irritability:
Sometimes we need to be angry in order to have the courage to confront those threatening or disrespecting us. If we don’t get angry, we’ll be much less likely to stand up for ourselves. Because anger energizes us and focuses us on the threat at hand, it equips us to take self-protective action.
from Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
Carla Naumburg, clinical social worker and writer, offers self-compassion as a way to move forward from irritability:
Self-compassion isn't about ignoring the issue or letting yourself off the hook, it's about noticing that you're struggling, reminding yourself that you're not alone, and treating yourself with kindness. It's about getting yourself into a better headspace so you can think clearly and make better choices going forward.
from How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent
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